Why do we echo with feelings of loneliness? Is this part of the human condition that we seek something, need something outside of ourselves to feel complete? It’s common to hear, this tale of loneliness from people in all walks…
In the middle of the night, the sounds and the shadows outside of my window take on a whole different life. It was not so long ago that I would have encourages someone like me to stay in the light…
Its strange how hello is also the way that we say good bye. When I was a young girl of 7 or 8, I visited my sister Sandra and her best friend in Northern California. I remember things like the…
The Owl has returned, and with it, my knowledge that the world runs through a power greater than mine. Still, he always finds his way home, the little owl. It is one of the ways that I know that summer…
We’re in the midst of launch the third in our “sister” sites on www.letting-go.org, dedicated to the psychology of codependency and love/relationship addiction, recovery and healthy living. It’s been a challenge because of the needs for video and audio to…
Letting Go To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it is the realization that I can’t control another To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means this outcome is not in my hands. To let go is not to change or blame another, I can only change myself. To let go is not to care for, but to care about. To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To let go is not to be in the middle of arranging outcomes, but to allow others to effect their own outcomes. To let go is not to be protective, it is to permit another to face reality. To let go is not to deny , but to accept. To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue, but to search our own shortcomings and to correct them. To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and to […]
Life, they say, is complicated. Have you found yourself wondering how to let go, come to center, end the emotional roller coaster? Ever wonder who “they” is, and how the rules of life are set? Really, the right, wrong, should,…
More than enough. It’s been the thought on my mind all day, where a deep sense of longing and loss have met with gentle acceptance and a swell of real, tangible hope. It feels like my eyes have been opened…
It’s raining outside my office window, great sheets of water falling from a suddenly darkened sky. That is one of the things that I love about May; everything changes from my view here by the window. A break in the…
Music to listen to Perfect by P!nk Choose Life. It’s not a hard concept…so why don’t we do it more often? Life is a huge, beautiful, messy proposition. Life is painful at times. It throws curve balls. Life is adventure,…
Five minutes can change your life for the better; I pray that these are those moments as you read. Is today the best day of your life? Why not? What if I told you that you could be content, hope…
Douglass Adams, my very favorite author of all time, died on this day in 2001. That’s a fast ten years, given that I remember where I was the day I heard he passed on. He’s the 17th highest ranked search…
Am I love? As I love you, I love you, all in and without reservation. There is nothing left for me but to be wholly in and invested in you. I long to be together to feel grace and truth collide…
Have you thought much about real life motherhood? It’s a tough gig, especially if you have a job, home and family. There are a lot of women in my extended family, and motherhood is a subject of discussion when we…
